Sorry I haven't been blogging lately...this week...at all. Geez, has it really been that long?
I seem to go through these phases...I almost hit a record high in January, and now its well into February, and this is my first post of the month!
Sigh.
I just don't know what to write about.
Actually, since its February, month of Valentines, aka LOVE, and there are little red hearts, chocolates, and roses, everywhere...I figure why not celebrate?
Sure I'm single as the day I was born, but there are plenty of friends out there who are completely twitterpated, and I'm happy for them! In fact, I'm going to get on the ball this year, and start my 2010 engagement/wedding tally NOW! I like to see the numbers go up :)
On top of all this, I've been visiting with my friend from out of town, and even though she is single, she is one of those girls who likes to plan her wedding "ahead of time". She has picked out her exact style of wedding dress, hair, shoes, etc...
Sure, why not know what you like?
I've never really been the type to think about my wedding. I mean, I can generally tell you what I like in a wedding, and what I don't, but I've never gone into specifics about what I would want. But our conversation piqued my interest, and I went on one of my terrible, fanatical, research binges.
Sort of like the 1920's one I just went though, that led me to the Diamond Dame blog, this excessive wedding craze led me to Once Wed.
Suffering from insomnia anyway, I spent the night perusing different styles of weddings. A lot of the featured weddings on the blog are vintage-inspired, which is right up my alley.
I began to give wedding dresses some thought.
There are so many white satin/silk, strapless, embroidered, princess poof dresses out there. I know that a lot of people like that more traditional style, and until now I'd always assumed that's what I would get. But the more I looked, the less I liked.
I have come to the conclusion that my dress will neither be made of silk or satin, it will not be a stark white (I think plain white is less common these days anyway), and I want...sleeves. There...I said it...I know sleeves on wedding dresses can be weird, but there some some nice ones. And I shall have them!
Hee hee...I feel silly making decisions about a day that is so far away in the very distant future, but it's kind of fun too. I figure the more I decide now, (if I write it down) the less I will have to decide later. Which is always a good thing.
If you're interested in seeing a dress I absolutely adore, search "Seth and Dionna" on the Once Wed blog link. His scarf thing is pretty awesome too.
Thoughts?
If you are married, what was your wedding like? What would you do differently now, if anything? Did you plan your wedding at all, before you were engaged?
If you are unmarried, have you ever thought about your future wedding day? How do you picture it?
I have many more thoughts, but as I said before, I feel silly writing about them. This is about as deep as I will delve for now.
5 years ago
7 comments:
First, let me say that you don't know that your wedding is in the very distant future. You could meet The One tomorrow and be married before the end of the year. Could happen.
Second, I love Dionna's dress! Very unique.
And lastly, what I would have done differently about my wedding would have been to not have a big church wedding that felt like it was about everyone else. I would have liked to get married on a beach somewhere, just Gary and me and our immediate family members.
I would do a lot of things differently.... you will have to see the wedding pics when you are here next. Dan in a white tux with white shoes... Ah yes, those lovely 80's. Hope they never come back.
Funny thing, as a guy, I have a TON of opinions about my wedding. I call them opinions because ultimately I'd cave to what she wants ... mostly.
Being an older guy, I've been to literally dozens of weddings. I know what I like, what's worked and what hasn't. The thing I can't stand the most is when a wedding is stuffy. If my wedding is not fun, it won't have been worth it. It's a celebration, not a ceremony. Some of my favorite weddings have been family, non-Christian weddings. I think that's sad. My favorite weddings have had dances, and been 2 day weddings, and yet still been relatively informal all things considered. Just a laid back, fun celebration.
In truth, I don't think there is a particular "style" that caters to how a wedding plays out. I've been to beach weddings and grand hall weddings that were equally fun because that's what it was about: celebration.
The worst weddings are when everyone has to knit-pick over every little detail and everyone's wound up like a jack in the box the day of the wedding for everything to go "perfect". It never happens.
We enjoy it as much as we are willing to relax and just have fun.
We will ALL look back on our weddings and wish we had done things different, or worn different clothes (my dad wore a white suit too Anne). But, they key is that you're married and your lasting marriage BETTER outshine your wedding day, special though it is.
No harm in preparing, no harm in planning. But when the time comes, remember, stress is your worst enemy to having a great wedding. Do things that eleviate stress. If you want it big - delegate! And trust the results, even if they are different from what you expect.
And laugh lots. :)
Anyways .. just a couple thoughts.
ps.
Dionna's dress is real nice!
The scarf is nice, but I hate wearing scarf's - too itchy!
All the advice I can give is this: Shell out the big bucks for a good photographer! They are expensive and they are worth every penny. We were broke and we thought we'd get family and friends to just take lots and give us copies. They did. We ended up with a gazillion not very good pictures. It's been 10 years, and all I've got are my memories. Sucky.
Sonya-- true, is possible that I could be married before the end of the year...but it is not probable :)
Anne- I think everyone feels that way about the eighties...funny how everyone seemed to enjoy it at the time though...I'll probably feel the same way, when I'm older!
Ryan- haha! You DO have a lot of opinions on wedding-ness, especially for a guy. It does help to see other people's weddings though, doesn't it? I loved the informality of Liz's wedding. And I agree, "perfect" weddings are LAME...I'm definitely not going to stress, and most people invited are going to have some sort of part to play...I think it will be awesome.
Danica-- I loooooove nice wedding photography. Love. it.
However, I have decided that I am not going to pay a lot for them, since a. I know a lot of photographers b. I am not photogenic so I don't want to waste money on pictures where I have an awkward smile.
But I definitely think in most cases, pro photos are the way to go.
Being in the blogosphere, I've come across many a wedding/wedding planner/photographer blogs and I do follow a few.
I love how people are so creative these days. I love the style of Seth and Dionna's wedding.
Can't say i've NEVER thought about weddings, but nor am I one of the girls who's planned everything out.
Key things though:
- Photos...they're very important to me.
- Simple, down to earth, not overly decorated/fancy
- And I'm walking down barefoot...pending it's outdoors.
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